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Monday, December 21, 2009

Let's Talk - Health

Ok...so yes, I am still in bed. This would be a great time to start a book or go through my magazine stack, but of course it's so easy to instead be online. While I'm at it, I feel compelled to talk a bit about health and share my recent experience. Those who've been around know I don't share a ton of personal details, but our health is supremely important so I must.

You know I'm always talking about my stomach, my stomach, my stomach. It felt bloated a lot of the time, not just during my menstrual period. I just figured it was a part of getting older. Of course I was so happy when I discovered how well drinking ACV worked for me. In the past few months I haven't been drinking it as regularly and you may have recently noticed that I looked like I'd gained weight again. Well, in addition to the bloating I have just felt like something wasn't 100% right. I didn't have any overt symptoms, but I've felt like this for a year. I thought it was something womanly related, so I looked for a new OBGYN. That's a long story, but basically I felt like the one I'd had for a few years was pressuring me to have kids. As in...she read me the riot act about how she didn't want me crying across from her desk if I waited too long to have them. Yikes, right? I found someone else to go to, but he sucked. I'm not even going to repeat that story.

I ended up finding yet another doc and her office has been phenomenal. I had all of the regular, yearly tests earlier in the year and still didn't feel 100% in my body. I could not explain it with any specific symptoms so I thought these feelings of things not being quite right must be symptoms of getting older. I tried some accupuncture for overall health/well being and stopped going to *that* lady because she kept telling me how tired I was (no s*** sherlock). And I also felt she was angry in her life, if that makes sense, and I just didn't want to be around that subconscious energy. Well, after not finding any overt symptoms of anything wrong and no holistic solutions to my feeling of imbalance, I started having pregnancy symptoms each month -- frequent urination and some spotting. I also had some abdominal pain, which I thought was Mittelschmerz. FINALLY I had these symptoms around a time that I could not possibly be pregnant. And I had enough abdominal pain to ask for an appt at the gyn office. I was happy. Something concrete to take to the doctor.

I was sent for an ultrasound and told I had a fibroid. A pretty big one. The nurse practitioner told me don't worry, it wasn't cancer. Cancer? That had never, ever crossed my mind. And I wasn't upset by the fibroid news. I was so happy!!! I *knew* something was off and was so happy to know what it was. In short, I had it removed on Thursday. What was amazing was to learn about all of the women in my life (over 5 of 'em) that have had fibroids removed. My aunt had to stay in the hospital for almost a week after her operation. Another friend stayed in for a few days. And I think yet another friend stayed in for a couple of days. I've been friends with her for over 20 years and didn't know she'd had the surgery a couple years ago. Lucky for me, my OBGYN has perfected the surgery and I didn't have to stay in the hospital. I was able to go home after a 4-hour recovery.

I gotta, say G Money (the hubs) & I feel like she downplayed everything just a bit during the pre-op appt compared to how the actual surgery day was. We thought I'd have more mobility & less pain. And we thought the recovery was 1 hour before going home, not 4. But those are small things. I'm guessing the doc didn't want me to overprepare for this or have a negative mindset. I *am* happy that I chose to make a lot of breakfast & dinner burritos and do some other things I almost passed on because I was running out of time. G Money has really stepped up with putting meals together. And a friend brought over some food today, which was really nice. Part of my lesson in this, I believe, is for me to accept help from others. With a graceful gratitude as opposed to 'you didn't have to do that...' I just give thanks.

Other things I've learned are -- to share my experience with others. I cannot believe how many women in my life that have had this, but I didn't know about it. I don't know if they just kept it to themselves or I just didn't hear the information clearly when they shared it. I am pretty sure they just didn't tell me. I'm not saying we should be standing in the grocery line sharing our latest health experiences, but discussion should be more free, imo -- esp about womanly things. ;-). I also was reminded, for the umpteenth time, to trust my instincts. I *knew* something was off in my body. I didn't go looking for symptoms because I didn't want to freak myself out. I just paid attention to what my body was doing and I shared it with my husband so he could remind me if I forgot things I'd mentioned. He's got a good memory. I wrote some things down...the spotting & what not, but it still never added up to anything until I had the strong abdominal pain. What I say to you is don't slough anything off. Trust your feelings. I didn't feel 100% taken care of by the doctors I had, so I'm glad I didn't settle and was led to the right one.

If you're having issues you can't quite box or put your finger on, you don't have to go looking for symptoms on the web if you don't want, esp if it will make you paranoid. That was my personal concern. However, consider opening up dialogue w/someone in your life as a good first step. I can't think of anything that I came across that says to be on the lookout for fibroids. I imagine I passed some of this information in magazines but never thought anything of it. I had one OBGYN from awhile ago do a yearly exam on me and say "no...you don't have any fibroids." I didn't ask her to check & see if I had any. I had no idea that she was probably/basically guessing. She never had me go for a sonogram, so one could have actually been forming from that time. I just trusted that she -- as the doc -- knew what she was talking about. If I had been engaged in conversations from time to time w/my friends about these things, I might have discovered mine sooner. I do believe the timing for this was perfect for what's going on in my life so I'm not upset that I have probably had them for awhile. I'm merely suggesting that yes, doctors are powerful, but our health begins at home. And maintenance includes having conversations about the topic.

BTW, Mindy from Mindy Loves to Garden just shared her spinal surgery experience. Yay, Mindy! So glad you're better than new. ;-)

That's it for now. The next cycle of Vic is kicking in. I'm sure there's something else missing/I wanted to say/have learned, but that's it for now. Mainly, if you have some health tips or an experience you want to share, please chime in. Esp if you think it can help others.

5/15/10 - ETA Links - I am a believer of combining Western medicine, alternative therapies and my intuition. I don't think any one source has the solution and it was a combination of things that worked for me. Myomectomy was right for me because of the desire to have children. I also feel that changing my diet and lowering my stress helped quite a bit. But hey, I still had my Vicodin days until the fibroid was removed.

* Baby Center - Lots of personal experience shared in the question threads. Very helpful to read if you have fibroids and want to preserve your fertility. Also, helpful if you have fibroids and are pregnant. Search fibroids on the site.
* Easy Home Remedy - Suggested herbal remedies for fibroids.
* Fibroids: Is Food a Factor? - Dr. Weil answers.
* Heal your fibroids naturally - I'm a fan of Western, Eastern and holistic medicine. The ideas in this article are holistic and spiritually oriented.
* Help For Women With Fibroids - Contains some suggested, natural remedies & other info.
* Med Help - An online community where you can ask questions and read discussion. Type fibroids in the search key and a list of results will pop up.
* Uterine Fibroids - A personal case history. Easy to read.
* Uterine Fibroids - Discusses hormones & fibroids, the liver & fibroids, and more.
* Uterine Fibroids - Explains the 4 types of uterine fibroids: subserosal, intramural, submucoal, penduculated.
* What Are Fibroids? - A good, basic intro to fibroids, in plain English, from the University of Virginia Health System.

Chime in...

51 comments

  1. I'm glad you're feeling better. No one knows your body better than you. I firmly believe that. I'll be having a hysterectomy this spring/summer. I have not felt well,etc. like you described. I, too have a fibroid & other issues, so I know that "yucky" feeling of always feeling bloated, and like something is not quite "right".

    You were smart to keep searching for a doctor that listened to you too. I've had doctors that didn't one time look up at me while I was talking. When I had my miscarriage, I was at my old doctor's office 3 times that week. I was devastated, and at the 2nd visit that week, he said, "So ya here for your yearly? When are you thinking about getting pregnant? You know you're 30 now." WTH! He didn't even remember me squalling in his office 2 days prior.
    Take care of yourself & get some rest. Remember no surgery is "minor". You need time to heal! Sorry for the novella, I'm a mama bear;-)

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  2. I haven't posted in awhile trying to avoid shopping, but I saw this post, and I had to chime in.

    I have issues as well, I am being monitored closely with an 6 mt ultrasound for an assist on my overy. I am getting mixed feedback from my obgyn whether to have it out or not, and my last test results were not clear, so I have to wait until my next one in the new year.

    The opposite is the case here, before you have surgery the surgeon presents the worse case scenerio first, so when you have it, the end result is not that bad.

    You have to speak up about your health, the doctors are so overworked in Canada due to shortages they do not have time to remember every little detail, the responsibility lies with the patient.

    I am surprised an ultrasound was done on you sooner.

    Take care and Happy Holidays!

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  3. Thanks for taking the time to share Gigi. I read your blog daily, sometimes multiple times throughout the day but don't post. I hardly post comments but was compelled to after reading about your procedure.

    Here's to a speedy recovery! Get well soon!!!

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  4. Aw, I'm so sorry you had to go through such a big ordeal Gigi! It must be so stressful and frustrating to feel something wrong or off about you but have so much trouble with doctors. Thank god it was finally pinpointed in the end and it wasn't anything unresolvable, and I'm really glad to hear that your surgery went okay! Honestly I had never heard of a fibroid before you mentioned it (had to look it up just now), but now I'm aware.

    Hope your recovery goes beautifully and that you are back to your old mobile self as soon as possible!

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  5. So glad to hear you finally found out what the culprit was and you're able to get it taken care of! It's such a sad state of affairs when doctors just go after the profit motive of "get you in, get you out" and really don't put your personal health first. My Mom went through that for at least a year or more - severe stomach pain, and no one could tell her what it was. By the time they did figure it out, it was too late. Anyway...I REALLY appreciate you sharing this story - I don't have many girlfriend with whom I'd share those kinds of details either, but just knowing that something like this is out there is SO very helpful. I hope you're back up and at 'em soon! :)

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  6. I had one removed earlier this summer as well. It was found only because I was complaining of what I thought to be endometriosis (was right) and after several tests to confirm the suspicion as I had been diagnosed with unexplained infertility (basically no reason I can't get pregnant but just not happening)surgery was scheduled. They removed the endo, a cyst, and polyp. Had to be on a respirator even though its day surgery and my ribs hurt much worse that the incisions spots. So hopefully with some luck a little will be in my future.

    Not to jump on the harpy bandwagon but I really now wished with everything I have to go through that I would have started earlier. If and when you decide the time is right, I hope it is quick and easy. Something that I didn't realize until I began this is that each month you have a 10% chance of getting pregnant when you are trying - it's higher the younger you aware and decreases with age. Sorry to be longwinded but wanted to share. Knowledge is power :)

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  7. Thanks for sharing your story! I have many fibroids, the Dr. even had them mapped years ago, but do not have such severe pain and symptoms as you did. It is nice to know that I have a Dr. who is on the look out though.

    You are correct in saying that women need to talk about these things. I always laugh at my Mom because she reads so many "women magazines" (while I stick to People and Us Weekly!) but she is always bringing up these types of conversations. The more information that we can get, the better.

    Kudos to GMoney for helping you through this experience!

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  8. Hey Gigi - glad you are on the mend! Kudos to you for your perseverance in finding a doctor who listened to you and was able to help you - it's very hard in this medical climate of 5 minute diagnoses! I know your recovery will be quick due to your positive attitude and will be back in the JCrew dressing room with camera in hand in no time!

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  9. Gigi, thanks for sharing your story with us. It is so true that our health begins with our own instincts! I hope your recovery goes well, and that you take the time for yourself to get lots of rest. Bless that GMoney for looking after you!

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  10. I am SO SICK of doctors thinking of all women as pre-pregnant. And having the nerve to tell us how we may or may not feel 5-10 years from now. Cue Maury-style, "You don't know me!" ;)

    Anyways, I'm glad you got the treatment you needed. I had a few friends in undergrad who had cyst/fybroid issues, one didn't know about it until it was an emergency, but she recovered.

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  11. Gigi,

    I'm glad you are feeling better.

    Your ordeal with gynies kind of sucks. The one lecturing you about bambinos makes me stabby. Did you even ask for that advice?

    I have to go for an annual in January and I'm kind of dreading it because yet again, I'm not prego. I totally feel like I'm being judged. I've gone to a couple of fertility clinics but they just make feel worse/paranoid/a big fat loser. Argh.

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  12. Thanks so much for sharing Gigi. I love your "Let's Talk" Monday post. By telling your story on your blog it may have helped someone else having the same issues and those not-quite-right-feelings. Sending lots of well wishes your way. Feel better soon.

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  13. I'm glad you are on the road to feeling better. My Mom had the same thing happen to her. They removed a fibroid the size of a cantalope! It was huge! She feels so much better now and you will too! Thank you for sharing your story.
    ~Rae

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  14. Thank you for sharing, Gigi. Feel better and Merry Christmas!

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  15. Gigi,
    Thanks for sharing your story. It is amazing how many people I know that have had fibroids. 2 of my good friends have had the surgery in the past few years. They both are doing well now. But it is major Surgery! So, it doesn't surprise me that you are in pain and need to rest. So, keep taking those painkillers and rest as much as you can. And surgery does strange things to your body, so make sure you keep taking all the meds they gave you, especially the stool softener - I can tell you that from past experience! (sorry to bring that up! LOL!)

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  16. Gigi, thanks for sharing your story and glad you're on the mend! We have to be our own advocates- no doctor knows us like we do! I struggled with finding the right treatment for myself this year (depression from my fiance's sudden death, SO many doctors wanted to over-medicate me), but once I listened to my body/mind and found a doctor that was willing to listen, things fell into place.

    That's what I love about the blog world- you find you're not alone. Hopefully someone will read your story and take control of their health like you did :)

    Oh! And I bought the F21 sequin tank this weekend- your review was spot on... thanks for the heads up on it!

    Hope you're feeling better soon and Merry Christmas!

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  17. Thanks for sharing and most importantly, trusting your instincts. I think intuition is something that always helps us. I hope you recover 100% soon and can enjoy the holidays!!!

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  18. GiGi,

    I'm glad to hear that you are on the mend. Take it easy & enjoy getting pampered by your husband!

    I also have polyps and a few fibroids and had a D&C a few years ago to have them removed. I knew something was wrong because my periods were extraordinarily heavy but my OB/GYN kept blowing it off as part of getting older. I finally had to put my foot down and demand that she address it. I kind of feel that alot of women's issues are ignored and like others have said, you have to be your own advocate when it comes to health. As much as reading & researching on the internet can freak you out, the more informed you are the better!

    I just want to add a counterpoint about the doctor who spoke to you about having kids. I honestly do not think it was unreasonable and wish more doctors would have this talk with women. I feel that infertility is almost an epidemic among my female friends & acquaintances in their 30's. The fact of the matter is that most women are painfully unaware how difficult it is to get pregnant - especially as you get older. The media blitzes us with images of 50 year olds giving birth to twins and stories on freezing eggs etc. I have known many women who falsely believe that as long as they eat well & stay in shape that they can wait until 40 to start trying.

    This is not to say that all women should be looked at as pre-pregnant. If you choose a child-free life, cool but if you intend on having children and are in a committed relationship, don't wait too long. After years of struggling with infertility, I am the proud mother of two rugrats. Had I known how long & windy and difficult the road to get here would be, I would have started earlier.

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  19. I'm glad you're feeling better, Gigi. It is really hard to find a good OB-GYN. I'm glad that you found a doc who helped you figure out what was happening.

    I am not anti-doc, but out of all the docs I've ever dealt with, I swear that OB-GYNs are the worst. Don't they get any kind of sensitivity training? I had a long and ultimately unsuccessful experience with the fertility-industrial complex and it was quite . . . trying, e.g. one doc using the term "Mongoloid" to refer to the risk of a Down Syndrome baby, another doc who was angry that I was (quietly) crying because she didn't want me to upset the patients in the waiting room.

    After that was all done I needed to find a new GYN, so I thought picking a younger female doc would be the way to go. Without even examining me, she told me the best thing to do would be to get a *total* hysterectomy (ovaries included), because if I couldn't use my junk to have a baby there really wasn't any point in having it around.

    It *is* annoying to be treated as a pre-pregnant baby-vessel, but OTOH it's easy to think that one will be the exception rather than the rule when it comes to late-30s fertility. I certainly did. There is a lot of information I wish I'd known earlier. As Mary Moo said, knowledge is power. Unfortunately GYNs don't seem to be the best source of non-judgmental information.

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  20. One more thing: if you are paying cash on the barrel (as one has to in fertility treatment, which typically isn't covered by insurance), a pelvic ultrasound is about $100 and takes 10 minutes.

    I am heartbroken when I hear the stories about women whose ovarian cancer could easily have been found if they'd had an ultrasound. If you think you are having pelvic problems, insist on one.

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  21. thanks for putting it out there Gigi - this is an important message. So glad you have been proactive in taking care of yourself. Get lots of rest and take care!

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  22. Agree--that some Doctor's and Health Care/Holistic Practitioner's are BETTER than OTHERS! I definately believe that although these people have their Degrees that sometimes the PATIENT knows their body and when something is off better than anything else. I am soo in tune with my body...that I know when anything is OFF! Good for you for persisting and getting the diagnosis of the Fibroid so you could do something about! Wish you speedy recovery Sister Gigi!

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  23. i have a fibroid inside of me as well, actually i have 3, and the large one is over 11 cm , and i'm only 115 lbs, around 5'6. so you can imagine how this is impacting my body. anyways, due to the size of it, the surgery i need will be a bigger one and hence recovery timewill be longer, i will need to take 2 months off work and be hospitalzied fora bout a week after surgery. i have yet to commit to surgery because the mere thought of being put unconscious while they cut me open scares the sh*T out of me. thanks for sharing your story, i'm glad you are okay now.

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  24. Gigi, thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better AND that you are allowing others to take care of you. Have a wonderful week! :)

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  25. GIgi, I hope you feel better soon. I had a similar experience a few years back. My OBGYN never found this large mass, but my family doctor did and they sent me to the oncologist right away because they could not figure out what it was, a fibroid, a tumor, they did not know. So It was the size of a baseball and the only reason they found it was because it was putting pressure on my bladder so I was peeing a lot. So the oncologist did the surgery and I was only at the hospital for a day. I was at home for 3 weeks recovering and luckily it turned out to be a very large fibroid, very large. So I feel your pain lady. So hang in there, you will be up and running to the mall in no time. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  26. BTW, having fibroids makes it much harder to get pregnant for many women. Just a thought...

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  27. So glad to hear you're feeling better! What a relief to finally find a cause for all of the pain.

    I had been having constant stomach issues as well, and assumed it was acid reflux or stress and it turned out I had gallstones! I had my gallbladder removed laparoscopically (sp?) in October and I feel 100x better! I would be happy to discuss my experience with anyone going through it. :)

    Take care of yourself!

    lucilikes@gmail.com

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  28. Thank you for sharing your experience. I agree that you are your best advocate when it comes to healthcare. Thanks for opening up the dialogue here. I'm sure your story can offer insight and assistance for others. Take care of yourself and take your time healing. It sounds like you have an awesome support system around you.

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  29. Glad you're feeling better! So sorry to hear what you've been been through!

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  30. How great of you to share something personal for the sake of others. Gigi, you are a very caring glaydie. ;) Kudos to you for sharing an issue that will heighten awareness for many women - like me.

    Best wishes for a quick recovery, and hope your Christmas is a happy one!

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  31. I'm glad you found the problem, and especially very glad you didn't stay with doctors you didn't like. Good for you. Feel better. My mom had surgery for fibroids and it solved the problem for her.

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  32. Gigi,
    glad to know you're doing better. My mother had a few fibroids and I remember her having to have the surgeries. Her's were painless, thankfully. Fibroids are pretty common in African American women, she was told. Not sure why, but the cases are pretty high. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  33. Gigi, Glad you are feeling better and were able to find out / treat the cause of your pain!

    I had some similar symptoms last year and made the mistake of googling them....YIKES there is some scary info regarding those issues on the web! Luckily mine ended up not being cancer either.

    Hope you get to relax and enjoy the rest of the holidays! :)

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  34. So glad you are on the road to recovery! Take care of yourself!!!

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  35. Gigi,

    I'm so glad that you are feeling better! Thanks for sharing your story. Rest up and take care of yourself!

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  36. Gigi, thanks so much for sharing this. It's so true that doctor's are merely human and not body/mind readers. They are all so overworked and see so many patients every day. I'm sooooo glad you are feeling better. Heal up, and have a nice Holiday with the hubbs!

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  37. What you have done by sharing this is very important, gigi. Thanks for the info and for telling your story. Take care and feel better soon!

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  38. Thanks for sharing your experience. Best wishes for a quick recovery!

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  39. Thank you for sharing your story - and your message with us! Best wishes for a speedy recovery!!

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  40. Thaaaaank you SO much, glaydies for your well wishes. A special thanks to those who read, but have never posted. Well, a special thanks to everyone -- regular readers/posters, too! I was so grateful to read what everyone had to say and it made me tear up, to tell you the truth. I have talked to my friends in recent years about whether they are saving or not, thinking about retirement, etc... but never talked about Lady Health. I will definitely have it as a regular part of conversation now. Well, not daily, but I will be asking if they are getting yearly exams and how they are feeling & so on.

    The stitching is getting tighter so I'm uncomfortable. Like it's taking a turn for the worse before it gets better. I just need to lay down & rest. So I've been *trying* to do that. It's hard because I want to fiddle with this and that. I don't want extra/unnecessary scar tissue so I am definitely taking it easy through the rest of the week & weekend. I will be glad when I can laugh again. It hurts to laugh. They don't tell you that in advance.

    The Dishy Decorator - You never have to worry about typing too much in the comments here. I read them all & I love reading them. Good luck with your hysterectomy. I hope you are well taken care of & heal well.

    casual-crew - My sister had a cyst on her ovary and had it removed. They went in vaginally, so hers was different. She was happy to have it out and has been doing well ever since. It didn't bother her too much, but she really noticed it when it was taken out.
    new year. I am *so* lucky my nurse practitioner sent me for a u/s. I am also very, very thankful for good health insurance. Even with that, I have helped my granny quite a bit w/her healthcare & I have seen how much SOMEONE has to speak up, esp if the patient cannot do it.

    RatsOnParade - Thanks for sharing about your mom.

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  41. MaryMoo - Long winded comments are welcome here. Thanks so much for sharing your story. ITA that doctors are sometimes profit motivated and I think it may be more the case when we're younger and healthier. Though they run my grandmother in-and-out, so there is no rhyme or reason. My point is, I guess, that I have had doctors assume I am healthy and nothing could be wrong. So RatsOnParade was right in saying I'm lucky I got a u/s so quickly. You went thru a lot w/your surgery. I can't imagine my ribs hurting too. I hope you get pregnant!!! It definitely happens after women have these issues resolved.

    Kathy - Yay for your mom bringing up these topics. And *you* can pass it on to your daughter & her friends. I like the thought of that ;-).

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  42. Susan - No, I *super* didn't ask for that advice from the 2 OBGYNS that told me to get a move on it, don't wait forever, put a pep in my step and start TTC. I haven't been waiting for the perfect time in my life or more money or anything. To be quite honest, I wasn't sure I wanted to be married. Howsabout that! They sure weren't talking to me about that with me in the room. They just assumed I was trying to live my life a bit more before having kids or waiting for more money.

    I *do* understand the doctors' perspective. There are a lot of celebrities having kids in their 40s and not giving details like they had fertility treatments or donor eggs. So they don't want us to assume we can all naturally get pregnant. I get that. But *they* weren't getting that I was still deciding if I wanted to have a child if there was a chance I might not be with the father. I've seen what my sister & brother go thru w/child custody and it's a mess. I *am* happy in my marriage, but at the beginning I was on the fence at times. And that's the truth. Marriage is yet another thing people tend to not talk about until they're crying over beers in a bar at the end. Yep...a whole nother post.

    Good luck w/your annual & ttc!!!

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  43. Rae - Thanks for sharing about your mom. Yep, fibroids get pretty big. Mine was softball size. I'm sure there is swelling around it, too. No wonder I felt bloated all the time. *lol*

    - Oh yeah, they told me about stool softener. *lol* There are some great message boards about there. I did a lot of lurking and took them up on their tips. One was to have fast food because it will encourage a bowel movement. They were right.

    LT - Depression is a tough one because there is no way to ultrasound that or find a diagnosis other than them asking you a list of questions. I admire you for keeping it together enough to be able to advocate for yourself and find a solution. That is awesome. And on a lighter note, so glad you love the F21 tank.

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  44. Anon/7:36 AM - Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I super wish I had wanted to get started on/a family earlier, but there are so many reasons why it didn't happen. More reasons than what I mentioned up above to Susan about being married. We had family tragedies and so many things going on...my mind just wasn't there. How sad it would be to bring a baby into the world and I just wasn't together enough to do it. If it had just happened...oopsie baby...that would be one thing. But I would have been trying to have a baby to beat the clock, not because I was feeling happy about it. Marriage aside, I had to get myself together just a bit more.

    Thanks for mentioning the heavy periods. That was another one of my symptoms that I forgot to mention here. I didn't bring it up to my obgyn until the strong abdominal pain because I didn't think it was a sign of anything. I felt off, but didn't think that was a part of it and I was wrong about that.

    All this said, I *do* believe the timing of this was perfect for me. My cousin had them removed last year and got pregnant as did my aunt 12 years ago (got pregnant, too) -- so I'm hoping to repeat family history. :-)

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  45. Hexicon - Hey there...thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. Given my experience w/obgyns in the past 5 years I can see how they can be considered less than the best. Some of them are arrogant. It's like there is a great, wonderful side of them, but then that whole I-Bring-Life-Into-This-World side of them sometimes rears its head as ugly. And unhelpful. I am SO happy I found this obgyn.

    Thank you also for mentioning pelvic ultrasounds!!!!!!!! It never occurred to me to ask for one. I thought u/s were just for checking the growth of babies. Of course I have heard of them for other things, but never connected it in a gyn way.

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  46. Anon/9:05 AM - Mine was 9cm back in Oct. I can imagine how it's impacting your body. It starts to hurt your bladder & other things, so don't let it go on. Can you get a 2nd opinion about the surgery? The longest I have heard anyone being in the hospital is like a wk. Maybe there is someone that can do the surgery in a more efficient way. Although I don't know *where* your fibroid is located and I'm sure that is a factor. Please email me if you want to discuss further. gigiofca at gmail

    Please handle your health. It's so important and you don't want to end up w/a problem worse than what you have now because of delay.

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  47. Rosa in DC - Thanks for sharing your story! In addition to J Crew & love for cute fashion, we have softball size fibroids in common. Who knew ;-)

    Anon/10:34 AM - ITA, the fibroid may be the reason we have not conceived since we have been trying. Fibroids are found in different locations, but mine was sitting right in the uterus.

    Luci - Thanks for sharing your story. Plus your contact info if anyone wants to talk. Very sweet of you & so helpful!

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  48. Lady Cardigan - Thanks for sharing about your mom :-)

    Charms - Yes, apparently fibroids are very common in African American women. Interestingly, the side of my family that is more AA has had them and the side that has less AA has not had them.

    LA - So glad you had good bad news and not bad bad news ;-). I believe in good bad news. I was so happy to hear they found *something* (bad) but that it was going to be solved (good). I was very excited to have the surgery, I have to say. Thanks for chiming in.

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  49. I'm so glad you found a good doctor. I had fibroid surgery 4-years ago and for the first time in my life I am no longer. anemic. I didnt' want children, so I had the abolation process with a laser. No pain! I didn't even have to take an asprin afterwards. However, there had been damage done that I will have to deal with from the anemia. You are so smart to keep searching a not let it go like I did. I hope you heal quickly and can get back to all you activities. All the best to you!
    ;-) Shari

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  50. Red Lipstick Style - Thanks for chiming in with your experience! I'm a little better everyday & hope you continue to heal as well. :-)

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